When did being polite start meaning you're a pussy? (rant)
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In the last few months I have (at my wife's request) tried to be much nicer to people in general. For those of you who don't know me personally that means I've tried to be the complete opposite of the asshole that I find myself naturally inclined to be.
I have made an effort, but nice is hard, so I've settled on polite. In the last few months all I've received for my pains has been shit. People scowl at you if you smile at them, no one will move if you politely wait for them to shift their carts over to the side of the ail while the spend 20 minutes deciding if crystal sugar or generic sugar is what they want, anyone who works in a food service industry will make you wait and then blatantly mess your order up.
By far the worst result is that every guy on the planet seems to think I'm a gigantic pussy because I am willing to wait/find something else/let them walk through first/etc.
What I want to know is when this became the commonly accepted response to politeness? I am not small, I certainly don't look like a pushover, I have gotten my ass kicked enough to know I'm not the biggest baddest whatever on the planet, but previously people backed away/moved/apologized for nothing (in general). It wasn't until I tried being polite that anyone treated me poorly
It's bullshit and everyone on here should make an effort not to be like that to polite people because some of us are big and not willing to take it much longer.
Seriously. If you read about a guy choking a Qdoba employee. . . well you get it.
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Colins a wuss. I challenge him to a fight!
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Parker;251851 wrote:
or you could still be polite, but make smartass remarks to people that are not... like the snobs that dont say anything if you hold the fuckin door for them....If find that to be quite an amusing hobby.:D
I noticed tonight how people can be asses. Me and my roommate went to the Giant Panda for dinner, we're just sitting there eating and minding our own business and these two punks, with there pant all low and shit, came in and were mad dogging and gooning at us. It's like WTF, can't a guy eat a meal with out some poser trying act like he's a bad ass for some reason that's only known to him. I try to be nice and polite to people and I do occasionally get a positive response back, but I'm just waiting for that one time somebody's a dick to me for me to snap.
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Cyril Figgis: Call girl!
Sterling Archer: No Cyril! When they're dead they're just hookers!
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Parker;251851 wrote:
or you could still be polite, but make smartass remarks to people that are not... like the snobs that dont say anything if you hold the fuckin door for them....yes, sarcasm can go along way.
For those people that know me, I am a super nice guy. but the world and yes, even fargo has its assholes. however, for me being nice or polite makes my life more enjoyable. People are always going to be pissed off or have shitty manners no matter what. but thats ok, I feel sorry for them. At the end of the day I know I did my best to treat everyone well.
This is the way I look at it. I have old fashion beliefs. I am always nice or helpful to everyone that I can be, cause you will never know when a time may come around where you will need help from someone else.
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fdfreak;251897 wrote:
This is the way I look at it. I have old fashion beliefs. I am always nice or helpful to everyone that I can be, cause you will never know when a time may come around where you will need help from someone else.
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My all time worst pet peeve as a big guy is when I am in a crowd trying to get somewhere and someone smaller moves in front of me just because there is a space there that I can't fit in. Pisses me off to no end. So I usually say something or if they are going the other direction I'll purposely get in their way. I'm usually pleasant to people and for the most part they look shocked that I'm not a complete dick, I guess I just look like a bully or something. The biggest shock comes when you tell a bosno outside of Wal-Mart they can't park in front, I do so love that particular expression. A mix of "You can't tell me what to do," and "Oh my god the giant is angry."
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> I'm sick of following my dreams, I'm just going to find out where they are going and hook up with them later.ASE certified parts specialist.
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I've always been a nice guy, i guess its mostly because I got picked on in Jr. High then continued growing after everyone else stopped. I figure for every 20 people who are complete dicks back, if one person smiles back or even says thank you it's worth it.
Sarcasm is definitely the way to go if they are dicks though. I've made more then a couple people laugh as well as a few get embarrassed or mad. Usually after they turn around and start to say something they realize I'm no slouch and leave. Being a bouncer has its fair share of dickheads too... but I'm getting paid to be nice then.
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Afsil80;252116 wrote:
In all seriousness Colin, I find it very surprising that people are rude to you.I'm not, some people would give god the finger if he waited after the light turned green for even a second.
I used to get a kick out of pushing people around and being an ass but it gets old fast. I do always have that experience to rely on if people want to play it that way, so some good did come out of it.
> Mitch Hedberg wrote:
> I'm sick of following my dreams, I'm just going to find out where they are going and hook up with them later.ASE certified parts specialist.
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Ignorant people are the worst kind, people that dont use there common knowledge, but thats life and you deal....
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i had a similar expirence the other day. (Wal-Mart of all places). I reached the self checkout line the same time as this hispanic lady and her teenage son. Being the nice guy i am, i let her go first. After they checked out and it was my turn the screen came up that said english or spanish. Her little bastart son comes back, reaches over and changes it to spanish thinking i couldn't read it. The part that made me the most mad was that the mother saw it, and didn't say shit.
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It's because no one respects other people anymore. I beleive it is because there is no consiquences (sp) anymore for being rude. Hence why you get little wiggers walking around rude towards everyone. They know that nothing will be done about it.
Now, if you are nice it seems like you are getting pushed around by words and actions, theres is no way you would act on someone being a dick, or screwing up your order, etc etc
This is why you have to be smart with your words and actions. Don't walk around being a dick, but have respect for yourself through your words and your actions.
I'm always a nice guy, but if you are rude to me or disrespect me I will let you know. Thats not being mean, thats not being a pushover.
Nice does not always equal being a push over.
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ok, so i Have GOT to chime in on this subject.
I have been in retail for a while, worked in metal fab shops, worked on the rail, and Bounced/Dj'd/Bartended, and lastly was a loss prevention officer in Alaksa.......which i dont care what you seen, you aint seen a REAL homeless crazy bitch, until you you seen a ALASKA homeless Crazy Bitch.
Anyways. What i have noticed, is that regardless of the people you deal with, and regardless of the setting, i always Assume that they are not Idiots, Assholes, Wannabe Ganstas, Or actual gangstas. Always. And how they treat me decides how i treat them. Even when i arrested peeps in AK, i just didnt assume they were a-holes, i talked to them with respect, and expected the same.
If they didnt, i was the a complete asshole to them. I would completely match their level, hoping that they would understand how stupid it was. Plus its kinda ammusing.
Usually they never got it. But it works, be nice, and if they are a dick, well then it really doesnt matter how you are.
I dunno, just my 2 cents.
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